"You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar"

We meet many people in our work and personal life, many of them want to get some work done out of you, or you would want a work done out of them. What I am trying to get at, is, we end up spending lot of time communicating and interacting with people whom you may or may not know.

When it comes to interaction, people are really unique, but attitude is something which can be categorized. After years of experience below my belt, there is one attitude which really irritates me, even though my anger has become so much controlled these days, still this one gets me totally pissed off.

The attitude I am talking about is “accusation“. There are some people who always tend to speak as if they are accusing you. Its really sad that they don’t understand how badly they can hurt the other person. Accusation is not generally taken well by me, or for that matter anyone. Even though that person is wrong, we should have a way of telling it. I know and agree with all supportive arguments to being open and straight forward. Being open or straight forward does not mean accusing some one.

When it comes to work life, you interact with so many of your juniors, peers and even seniors. The first thing that emerging leaders/leaders should learn according to me is never accuse some one of something. Even without accusing you can bring the problem to the notice of the person. Try to explain the problem and its impacts and repercussions, offer to help if required. That would form a very good impression on your juniors. More than the impression, it will motivate the person to solve the problem.

Even in day to day life, when you try to get work out of people, I have seen so many people accusing the other person for bad work or results which may not be as expected. This is normal and bound to happen, I guess people should develop a little more patience and tolerance to the unexpected and unacceptable outcomes.

Anyways, When it comes to me, If you need some work done out of me, now you know, what not to do. Watch your tone and attitude!!!.