Disclaimer - This has nothing to do with ANYONE. It is purely objective. Do not look for any hidden allusions to people you may know or references between the lines. There are none.
Many a time, I've heard people go 'Oh my life sucks!' or 'Everything is just horrible! Why me?' or 'It's only ME who's going through a bad time, why is life so unfair?'. I must say I've been guilty of it too at times. But now as look back upon it, it seems kinda pointless. I live by my own guidelines. And so if anything in my life is wrong, it's my fault, not anyone else's. And once I got that, I figured that looking outward for self-pity is not an option. YOU got yourself into the mess, YOU get out of it, simple as that.
Why do people think they're the only ones going through a bad time, if indeed they are? If you look around you, you'll see people suffering as much or a lot more than you. You're lucky if you've got a roof above your head, two square meals a day, clothes to cover your body and a bed to sleep in at night. You're lucky if you have a school or college to go to. You're lucky if you have a job to do. You're lucky if you have family who care for you. You're lucky if you have a hobby, if you have something to keep yourself occupied or if you aren't idle. There's so much to be grateful for in this world, so then why fret over little stuff? I know I probably sound really idealistic and philosophical and stuff, but trust me, it helps. If you realize just what you have and value it a little more, it'll make you a much happier person.
And what exactly defines a 'bad time'? If the person you like doesn't speak to you, is it the end of the world? If a close friend drifts off onto an unknown path, do you break down, stop right there and give yourself misery? If you think you have no friends, do you wall yourself off from the rest of the world and try to reciprocate the 'meanness'? It's not gonna help! Not many people recognize the strength and power of the relationships they have with others. Some bonds are very deep and you don't even know it. There are people I know who probably don't know it, but I'd risk a lot for them. But that's fine by me. They don't need to know it. I'm not looking for anything in return. Friendship is a very deep word and everyone has more friends than they think. And if any of them stray off line, why do you disclaim responsibility and renounce the relationship? They are your friends, you gotta help them. They may not even know they're wrong, you've gotta tell them - they depend on you for that.
At the end of the day, life isn't very long and you have to try and make the most of it. Sometimes, everything may seem like too much to handle. You may wanna just board yourself up in a corner and shut everything out. Well, do it. But after a while, when you come back to reality, look up at where you're going instead of down where you came from. Always look forward to what will be instead of back to what has been. There's always happiness in this world, it's up to you to find it. If you keep demanding more from life, you'll never be satisfied. Instead, sit back and have some fun. Enjoy every little thing to the fullest. In the end, thinking negative harms no one but you.
PS - You may think that I got no clue what I'm talking about. You may say that I've never been in your position, so how would I know? True, but this is only what I believe in and it's worked for me. I've become a lot more relaxed and happier since I started following a lot of this myself. Cheers!
1 comments:
U know I have had such experiences in my life, when nothing was working for me. Initially I used to complain about it, but later learnt to accept it and instead work to solve the problem.
Cursing one's luck doesn't work anytime.
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